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I've created this blog after ending a two-year relationship and starting over in the dating world in my (mid)30s. The good...the bad....and the ugly....of dating.
Thursday, August 30, 2012
Saturday, August 25, 2012
Suitor #9. Penpal. Aug 25
This guy was pretty cool and cute. We went out on a Saturday night to dinner. While I was laughing and enjoying myself, I realized that he did not ask me one question about me. We weren't really getting to know each other. He was just talking about himself.
Could be clueless, inexperienced (he is divorced), or all about himself. Who knows. I was up for going out again. He walked me to my car and did not set up another date (you know that's not a good sign!).
After that we had daily text correspondence but no more dates were set up. We are now in Oct and I still get texts every now and again. Nothing suggesting a date though. Whut?!? He just wants a penpal.
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Could be clueless, inexperienced (he is divorced), or all about himself. Who knows. I was up for going out again. He walked me to my car and did not set up another date (you know that's not a good sign!).
After that we had daily text correspondence but no more dates were set up. We are now in Oct and I still get texts every now and again. Nothing suggesting a date though. Whut?!? He just wants a penpal.
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Thursday, August 23, 2012
Suitor #8. Mr. Selfish. Aug 23
Agreed to meet this guy for a "quick drink" after work because I had to go home and take care of my dog. I actually had a decent time. He was very knowledgeable about random things and kept me entertained. He was very touchy as he talked...and...I kindof like that. Not bad looking too. He was a consultant and owned his own business and seemed pretty intelligent.
I agreed to a second date, which was about two weeks later because I had my Dad visiting from out of town and he was busy as well.
We went to this Italian "tapas" place. I was having an "ok" time. Definitely pleasant but no jitters. He was a year younger than me and a little bit immature but still not tossing in the towel.
Here's the clincher.....
We ordered this appetizer of bread with cheese and honeycomb. They give you just a little bit of honeycomb that you have to use sparingly if you want to have enough for all 6 slices of bread. I still had about 1.5 slices left on my plate and he was down to his last slice. He scraped up ALL of the honeycomb off the plate. I would say that 99% of guys that I date offer me the last bit of the appetizer or put food on my plate. This guy had no clue. He didn't even realize that he did not leave any for me. If this was "good behavior" on the 2nd date...who knows what is to come.
Went back to his place since he lived down the block. I said I had to go pretty early. And just about close to my car, I realized that I left my really nice Pashmina shawl at his place. He said that it is just another excuse to see me again. WTF was I supposed to do now?!? Later that week, I had a meeting close to his house and I texted him to see if I can stop by and get it. Phew!
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I agreed to a second date, which was about two weeks later because I had my Dad visiting from out of town and he was busy as well.
We went to this Italian "tapas" place. I was having an "ok" time. Definitely pleasant but no jitters. He was a year younger than me and a little bit immature but still not tossing in the towel.
Here's the clincher.....
We ordered this appetizer of bread with cheese and honeycomb. They give you just a little bit of honeycomb that you have to use sparingly if you want to have enough for all 6 slices of bread. I still had about 1.5 slices left on my plate and he was down to his last slice. He scraped up ALL of the honeycomb off the plate. I would say that 99% of guys that I date offer me the last bit of the appetizer or put food on my plate. This guy had no clue. He didn't even realize that he did not leave any for me. If this was "good behavior" on the 2nd date...who knows what is to come.
Went back to his place since he lived down the block. I said I had to go pretty early. And just about close to my car, I realized that I left my really nice Pashmina shawl at his place. He said that it is just another excuse to see me again. WTF was I supposed to do now?!? Later that week, I had a meeting close to his house and I texted him to see if I can stop by and get it. Phew!
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Monday, August 20, 2012
Tall, Blonde, and Beautiful
Well - it all happens. We all get rejected. Sometimes, even before a first date. Thought I'd share the email below and Xing out the identifying information.
EMAIL 1 FROM ME:
Hi! Ok - so I winked but we have too much in common so I thought I'd send a note. Where in XXX are you from? I'm from XXX. I also went to XXX for college and XXX school. Is your vacation spot in XXX? My XXX is there...along with the other XX Jews :) Hope to hear from you :) XXX
EMAIL 2 FROM HIM:
Hello. Thank you so much for the sweet contact. We definitely have a lot in common. I am from XXX so we were neighbors :). I have a real strong attraction to tall, blonde and beautiful girls and because of this doubt that we would be a match as far as marriage, but I would still be interested in saying hello on a friendship level if you like?
My thought -- you had to throw in the word "beautiful"! O M G
EMAIL 3: FROM ME: NOTE - NONE OF THIS IS TRUE BUT I JUST HAD TO BE ....ME....
Take Care.
Email 4: From him
I wish you all the best on findiding the perfect doctor. I am a little disappointed that I am going to be living the rest of my life all alone though. I was never really aware of that until you so poetically updated me. I just would not want to create false hope and perhaps my words were not so perfect, but I responded because I thought you sounded nice and interesting and might be a nice person to get to know better in a non sexual way. Sorry this was not good enough for you. Best of luck in XXX.
EMAIL 1 FROM ME:
Hi! Ok - so I winked but we have too much in common so I thought I'd send a note. Where in XXX are you from? I'm from XXX. I also went to XXX for college and XXX school. Is your vacation spot in XXX? My XXX is there...along with the other XX Jews :) Hope to hear from you :) XXX
EMAIL 2 FROM HIM:
Hello. Thank you so much for the sweet contact. We definitely have a lot in common. I am from XXX so we were neighbors :). I have a real strong attraction to tall, blonde and beautiful girls and because of this doubt that we would be a match as far as marriage, but I would still be interested in saying hello on a friendship level if you like?
My thought -- you had to throw in the word "beautiful"! O M G
EMAIL 3: FROM ME: NOTE - NONE OF THIS IS TRUE BUT I JUST HAD TO BE ....ME....
RE:
Thank you for the classy email. I completely understand where you are coming from. I typically only go out with Drs. because people with more junior degrees aren't intellectually stimulating for me, but I thought I would give you a chance since you are XXX and from XXXX. Thanks for reminding me that we wouldn't be a match ;) I remember your profile from Jdate about 3 years ago....Good luck finding a tall, blonde, beautiful woman - most that I know don't typically fall for Jewish looking guys.Take Care.
Email 4: From him
I wish you all the best on findiding the perfect doctor. I am a little disappointed that I am going to be living the rest of my life all alone though. I was never really aware of that until you so poetically updated me. I just would not want to create false hope and perhaps my words were not so perfect, but I responded because I thought you sounded nice and interesting and might be a nice person to get to know better in a non sexual way. Sorry this was not good enough for you. Best of luck in XXX.
Thursday, August 16, 2012
Suitor # 7. Weight a minute. Aug 16
Yes - it happens to women too.
I went out with a guy who had several nice pictures up. He is originally from NY. We went to eat sushi. When I arrived and met him outside...I had to do a triple take. This was NOT the same man who I was emailing. Well...maybe it was but at least 50 lbs heavier.
I actually prefer a guy with some meat on his bones over a skinny minny guy but this was false representation. Foot in the Door. Bait and Switch. Whatever you want to call it but I wanted out. Not only that...he walked with his arms out on his side like he was some hot shot. He was just "puffy" is the only way I can describe it. He was wearing a sports coat and was sweating so much that when we sat down, he had to go the bathroom to wash off.
When all else fails...talk about match dates. He told me the last girl he went out with went to the bathroom within 10 minutes of the date and never came back to the table. I was so tempted to tell him why...but I bit my tongue.
I ate my roll and said I had to go and I didn't need him to walk me to my car.
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I went out with a guy who had several nice pictures up. He is originally from NY. We went to eat sushi. When I arrived and met him outside...I had to do a triple take. This was NOT the same man who I was emailing. Well...maybe it was but at least 50 lbs heavier.
I actually prefer a guy with some meat on his bones over a skinny minny guy but this was false representation. Foot in the Door. Bait and Switch. Whatever you want to call it but I wanted out. Not only that...he walked with his arms out on his side like he was some hot shot. He was just "puffy" is the only way I can describe it. He was wearing a sports coat and was sweating so much that when we sat down, he had to go the bathroom to wash off.
When all else fails...talk about match dates. He told me the last girl he went out with went to the bathroom within 10 minutes of the date and never came back to the table. I was so tempted to tell him why...but I bit my tongue.
I ate my roll and said I had to go and I didn't need him to walk me to my car.
Next.......
Monday, August 6, 2012
Suitor # 6. Mr Nothing Wrong with Him... Aug 6
Went to another cute little Greek place by my house for dinner. This guy is actually somewhat friendly with a guy I dated a couple of years ago who told me that he was a nice guy. So - I thought how bad can dinner be.
Actually had a pleasant time. Wasn't a match. But - nothing was wrong with him.
The funny part of the night: I let the waiter pick a white wine for me. After dinner, I asked him which wine he picked because I liked it and wanted to remember it. I told him that I was 18 and just learning what I liked. He believed me and got worried! Hahaha!
:)
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Actually had a pleasant time. Wasn't a match. But - nothing was wrong with him.
The funny part of the night: I let the waiter pick a white wine for me. After dinner, I asked him which wine he picked because I liked it and wanted to remember it. I told him that I was 18 and just learning what I liked. He believed me and got worried! Hahaha!
:)
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